It Begins With You!

Are you sure you want this? Unless you feel a strong passion to change yourself first as you attempt to lead men toward growth, this program is not for you. We are looking for leaders who are willing to make their own development a priority and face the hardships such personal strengthening requires. We ask you, in this way, to model the material presented.

• You must become a servant leader to your group and delay meeting some of your own needs for the good of others.
• You must view yourself in an optimistic manner, seeing the depth of the problems to be solved, while determining to be a difference-maker in them.
• You must accept that there are no easy answers for you or the men you lead. It is up to you to do the hard work that makes change possible.
• You must understand that choice and taking responsibility are important themes in this program. One’s faith choice is presented not as a pre-determined conclusion but as a serious act of turning one’s will over to God. The implications of this important decision are even clearer when a male becomes a man, and with full understanding makes a God-man relationship decision.
• You must learn to relate to the men you lead in a complete manner, as you not only think but feel together with them in the journey. You should model the attributes of what it means to have supportive relationships.
• You must be ready to hear some rough stories as men open up about their lives, on the way to becoming what they want to become. At times, some men will be encouraged to seek further assistance as their long ignored pain becomes more apparent to them.
• You must create a team to help lead the men as opposed to trying to lead them on your own, which is less likely to succeed. Diverse groups of men need diverse leadership so that all types of personalities can feel valued and be heard. You need help with hosting, audio-visual, lay prayer or counseling, refreshments, publicity, and other organizational functions. Including others in these responsibilities will deepen their commitment to their own personal growth, as well as the men’s movement in general, and provide you as the leader with a sense of support.